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Lokeen #1 Posted 14 August 2016 - 12:22 PM

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Alright Fellow Forumers,

 

 


 

Some people will call me a "sensitive snowflake" some will have other comments I'm sure.  TBH I don't care regarding this topic.


 

I'm tired of and frankly disgusted, at the use of the word "cancer" to describe everything from a bad tank to people's perspective on the community in general.


 

As a 40 year old husband of a wife who was diagnosed with non-curable breast cancer 2 years ago I'm respectfully requesting that people stop using this term so flippantly.

I find it insulting and calloused that people choose to use this term as an adjective for there petty 1st world problems.


 

Try pulling yourself out of your self centered world for once and think how someone else may be affected by your choice of words.  I know there's children or immature people in this community that this post will be lost on but please I hope some one reads this and listens.


 

It's hard enough to look at the woman you love everyday, my best friend, deteriorating and fighting for her life while you try and remain positive and try not to wonder if you'll out live her or not.


 

Please show some respect or at least humor a struggling man and find some other word to describe you petty inconsequential problems.


 

Thank you. :honoring:


Edited by Lokeen, 14 August 2016 - 12:23 PM.


Kairi12 #2 Posted 14 August 2016 - 12:37 PM

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o7 Lokeen

 

Never really thought about the impact of the word when I use it myself

Fair to say I won't be using the word,"cancer" in the wrong context in the future


 

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Gojira5475 #3 Posted 14 August 2016 - 12:48 PM

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Oh pee,I'm sorry for you but no way I'll stop using a word because it hurts someone's feelings-it's a word,it gets used in many ways both in and out of context,deal with it.

PA60Pilot #4 Posted 14 August 2016 - 12:48 PM

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No one who has experienced a loved one battling cancer would ever use the word flippantly.  The rest are immature, and should be discounted as much as is possible.

 

I wish you, your wife, and your family the best during this difficult time.  Oftentimes the fragility of life is taken too much for granted.  Thanks for sharing your struggle.  It might help some of us try just a little bit harder to take care of our loved ones.

 


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Kairi12 #5 Posted 14 August 2016 - 12:53 PM

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View PostGojira5475, on 14 August 2016 - 07:48 AM, said:

Oh pee,I'm sorry for you but no way I'll stop using a word because it hurts someone's feelings-it's a word,it gets used in many ways both in and out of context,deal with it.

 

Did you not read his first sentence? Too bad your opinion doesn't weigh in on this matter.

 

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Aivris #6 Posted 14 August 2016 - 12:53 PM

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You have my support and my best wishes, Lokeen. Stay strong!


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View PostLokeen, on 14 August 2016 - 07:22 AM, said:

 

Some people will call me a "sensitive snowflake" some will have other comments I'm sure.  TBH I don't care regarding this topic.

 

Shame on anyone who says anything derogatory towards you for this post.    I've always felt like it was a very boorish way to describe something.   I've also had somone in my life very close to me stricken with incurable cancer.   My heart goes out to you 



Gojira5475 #8 Posted 14 August 2016 - 12:58 PM

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View PostKairi12, on 14 August 2016 - 12:53 PM, said:

 

Did you not read his first sentence? Too bad your opinion doesn't weigh in on this matter.

 

I actually hardly use the word,but when someone acts like this it sets me off,the world is hard and life is worst,go ask people who fought wars or such,don't let ANYTHING get you down,hold your head high and keep going.

Letting a simple word upset you is a disgrace to your loved ones who are gone,be tough,be proud and carry on.



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View PostGojira5475, on 14 August 2016 - 07:58 AM, said:

 

I actually hardly use the word,but when someone acts like this it sets me off,the world is hard and life is worst,go ask people who fought wars or such,don't let ANYTHING get you down,hold your head high and keep going.

Letting a simple word upset you is a disgrace to your loved ones who are gone,be tough,be proud and carry on.

I see you are doing your part to keep life at its "worst". This post is above your pay grade.  Leave



Lokeen #10 Posted 14 August 2016 - 01:07 PM

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View PostGojira5475, on 14 August 2016 - 07:48 AM, said:

Oh pee,I'm sorry for you but no way I'll stop using a word because it hurts someone's feelings-it's a word,it gets used in many ways both in and out of context,deal with it.

 

I hope someday you're eyes are opened in a way that doesn't cause you pain.

Gojira5475 #11 Posted 14 August 2016 - 01:08 PM

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View PostwoodEnstares, on 14 August 2016 - 01:04 PM, said:

I see you are doing your part to keep life at its "worst". This post is above your pay grade.  Leave

 

See funny thing is what I said is an opinion and like it or not everybody has one,someone posts and I feel like it I may say something,now long as I'm not an idiot and calling names? Then there's nothing wrong with it.

 

Now I'm out of this topic,I said my peace and if I want to use a word-I will.



Lokeen #12 Posted 14 August 2016 - 01:10 PM

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View PostGojira5475, on 14 August 2016 - 07:58 AM, said:

 

I actually hardly use the word,but when someone acts like this it sets me off,the world is hard and life is worst,go ask people who fought wars or such,don't let ANYTHING get you down,hold your head high and keep going.

Letting a simple word upset you is a disgrace to your loved ones who are gone,be tough,be proud and carry on.

 

True strength is tempered by kindness and understanding.


 

Clearly you possess none of the above.



Colonel_Sanders1 #13 Posted 14 August 2016 - 01:11 PM

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* I just read your whole post and I understand why you don't like the use of certain words.  Good luck with your family and future

Edited by Colonel_Sanders1, 14 August 2016 - 01:18 PM.

Oh no

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I salute you Sir :honoring:

 

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View PostGojira5475, on 14 August 2016 - 06:08 AM, said:

 

See funny thing is what I said is an opinion and like it or not everybody has one,someone posts and I feel like it I may say something,now long as I'm not an idiot and calling names? Then there's nothing wrong with it.

 

Now I'm out of this topic,I said my peace and if I want to use a word-I will.

 

wow, dude, just wow.

Shakes head repeatedly re reads, nope same thing. 

 

Have some respect, start with for yourself then move up a bit, if that's too hard try again. 

 

Imo you can go take a selfie with a tree until then.

 

I'm sorry to hear that lokeen best wishes to you and your wife.


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RoadKutter #16 Posted 14 August 2016 - 01:17 PM

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o7 Lokeen, best wishes am never give up.

You bring up a good point. It's an illness not a way to describe your bad team. I hope people will read this and it will make them think. Personally I would be happy if all medical and mental state comments dissapeared from the game chat.

 

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I've been fortunate that no one close to me has been diagnosed with cancer before. I can't imagine if they were, and my heart goes out to you and everyone else who struggles with this. 

 

If it helps we're getting better and better at finding cures. 



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:honoring: Lokeen. As a fellow over-the-hill tanker, I have quite a few friends and family that have battled or currently are battling this insidious disease. In this time of backlash against so called "political correctness", there will be those who will take exception at being asked to change their words so as not to offend. To these people, have a little empathy and ask yourself if these words would be thrown around so flippantly amongst a group of strangers in the real world. If the answer is no, let that guide you. 

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Excellent point.  I'll see what I can do to clean it up some in our neck of the woods.  

 

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View PostLokeen, on 14 August 2016 - 07:22 AM, 

 

Try pulling yourself out of your self centered world for once and think how someone else may be affected by your choice of words.  I know there's children or immature people in this community that this post will be lost on but please I hope some one reads this and listens.

 

First, best wishes to you and your wife now and the struggles yet to come.

 

I think you really nailed it here. Cancer, autistic, retarded, etc. They are all words used so flippantly by many people playing this game. Knowing someone that plays this game with their autistic son, you don't really realize what you're saying until you have that personal reference, or have someone give you their thoughts.

 

Again, stay strong and best wishes Lokeen.


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